Two years ago, on the eve of the Worcester Half Marathon, I sat with Pam in her dining room and we published our first post. Now, two years later things are much different. I’m about 750-miles away from Pam, as I sit in front of my computer in North Carolina.
I could write about a lot of different things but instead, I’m choosing to write about friendship and the importance of it in our lives. Bear with me for some history here….
Almost five years ago, Lil One was born and I decided that I was going to run a half marathon before she turned 1-year old. I’m not sure why that became my goal distance, but it did. While I really wanted to give it a shot, there was something holding me back—it wasn’t fear. It was the idea of doing it on my own—without someone to train with. Without someone who was experiencing the same feelings of aches, pains, discomfort, fatigue, and frustration that I was at that very moment. It held me back—until by some strange chance, while on a popular newlywed chat board, I happened upon a post that Pam wrote about starting a half marathon-training program. Without knowing Pam, other than some replies to posts here and there I discussed it with The Hubs and decided to give it a shot. How bad could this chick be if she was willing to run a half marathon?!
As the training cycle completed and we towed the line on race day, Pam and I began to develop a camaraderie on the Newton Highland hills. We worked together as a team—pacing each other at points throughout the race. One was either slightly ahead or behind, but always within talking distance. As we came up Mile-10, I turned to Pam and said, “We’ve got this—it’s only a 5k! What’s a 5k right?!” And off we went. As we crossed the finish line (1:57 by the way!!) it was not just the end of a race or a training session, it was the beginning of our friendship.
Over the years we’ve travelled many miles together—hundreds of miles together. We’ve had many conversations along our long straight path. Picking up and dropping off different members of our ERP along the way. We’ve shared thoughts, feelings, fears, emotions. We’ve shared words spoken and unspoken. Sometimes it was in those moments of silence, with just our footfalls hitting the pavement that meant so much to me. We were just two working moms. We dealt with and supported each other through the $hittiness of life—illness and death of parents; the roller coaster of infertility… We’ve shared in each other’s joys—the birth of Mr. Man; Pam’s Boston Marathon finish.
My life has taken a crazy turn this past year and my own responsibilities moving and establishing my family here in North Carolina, have taken me away from blogging as frequently as I’d like, but Pam has been there to pick up the slack. And while she enjoys it, she also does it because that’s what friends do for each other—they step in and become what the other needs.
While over these past two years, our runs together have clearly become less frequent, as we travelled different paths along the road that is our passion for health, wellness, and fitness, it is still those early days of our runs together, along our sacred path and occasional post run breakfasts, that are the foundation of our friendship that binds us to this day.
Two of my favorite ladies in the running world are Sarah Bowen Shea and Dimity McDowell, otherwise knows as the ladies behind Another Mother Runner. If you are a mom, who runs (any distance, any speed, at any stage in life), you need to know who these ladies are! They are accomplished athletes, authors and journalists, run the blog/business Another Mother Runner, and the podcast by the same name. They have authored two of my favorite books—Run Like a Mother and Train Like a Mother, as well as a third book that has yet to be released. I recently had the opportunity to meet both of these amazing, warm, caring, and supportive women at an AMR meet up here in Raleigh. When I introduced myself to Dimity (I was star struck by the way) she asked me what my goal for 2014 was and I told her it was to make some new mother runner friends as I had only been in Raleigh for 4-days.
She gasped and hugged me and wished me luck and asked if I had found some friends—warmth and kindness radiated from her. She and Sarah graciously took some photos with me as well as signed my copy of Train Like a Mother. The beauty and energy that was that evening with all the other BAMRs (Badass Mother Runners) reminded me of Pam and of our friendship. The things that Sarah and Dimity talk about with “The Tribe” are the things that I speak to Pam about—they are the basis of our friendship. It’s about the real-ness of who we are as moms and women. We see each other for what we really are—ladies who are just trying to get by. There are no apologies needed; no need to put on a show and try to be something we are not. We make mistakes. We’re human. We want to live a healthy and happy life. And most importantly, we support and love each other.
As a thank you to all of you, the Fit Moms of the world out there, I’d like to do a small giveaway as a thank you all of you who have made these past two years possible for us. We have lots in the plans for our future if you stick with us. So as a thank you, I’m giving away a copy of one of my favorite books by Sarah and Dimity—Train Like a Mother. It’s training season for me and many of you runners out there—whether it’s for your first race or twentieth. Whether it is for a 5k just to finish or a marathon to “prove it”…this book is a great training guide and read in general. My own personal copy is underlined and annotated. I hope that you will enjoy it as much as I did and that you will get much use out of it as well. So, please review the Rafflecopter rules below and enter, better yet….tell a friend to enter as well!
We thank you for being a part of the Fit Moms and Full Plates readership—it means a lot to both myself and Pam. And to Pam—thank you from the bottom of my heart for being the friend that you are—I owe you much gratitude.
NOTE: I am not being compensated in any way for this giveaway. I have purchased this book with my own funds and am giving it away purely because I love the book and want to share my enjoyment of it.